Get the Behavior You Want... Without Being the Parent You Hate! is a roadmap of quick, concrete strategies to help parents use everyday opportunities to create respectful, responsible, and resilient children between the ages of 18 months and 12 years√õwithout screaming or nagging. With Get the Behavior You Want... Without Being the Parent You Hate! you√åll know how to eliminate the behaviors you don√åt want while fostering the behaviors you do want like pitching in around the house, pleasant table manners, managing money, finishing multiple-step assignments, taking risks, asking for help, and coping with bad news.

With today√ås busy parents in mind, each concise chapter provides easy-to-implement action steps and examples of how to teach respect, responsibility, and resilience plus ways to immediately address tantrums and unacceptable behavior while avoiding future conflicts down the road. Dr. G provides easy ways to modify the advice for children at different developmental stages, ranging from toddlers through kids ready to finish middle school.

A hands-on, grab-me-for-a-few-minutes resource, Get the Behavior You Want...Without Being the Parent You Hate! will help parents who are struggling to get to bedtime without tears parents who want to shop at Target without hearing constant whining and pleading and parents who want someone to normalize their experience and say, "Yes, this happens. Here's what you can do." Upbeat, lively, and humorous, this book answers parents√å most frequent questions and eliminates the guilt and guesswork out of raising a great kid.

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Contents

"Introduction
; Part I: Respect: Thatís My Kid!
; 1. Respect: Why Bother?
; 2. Whoís Got Your Vote to Run The House?
; 3. Teaching the Skill of Self-Respect
; 4. Treat Family Even Better
; 5. Spoiler Alert: What You Do is More Important Than How You Feel
; 6. Manners Matter
; 7. Build Respect with Every Meal
; 8. Raising Good Hosts
; 9. Raising Good Guests
; 10. Titles Matter
; 11. Teach the Verbal Communication Secrets
; 12. Teach the Nonverbal Communication Secrets
; 13. Teach Your Kids to Talk to Strangers
; 14. Seek Out Diversity
; 15. But What About Your Kidsí Friends?
; 16. Your Bedroom as Your Sanctuary
; Part II: Responsibility: Count On It
; 17. Responsibility: Building a Great Work Ethic
; 18. Relying on You
; 19. Teach Kids to Get Themselves Clean
; 20. Teach Kids to Get Themselves Dressed
; 21. Teach Kids to Get Themselves Fed
; 22. Teach Kids to Get Themselves Fit
; 23. Chores: Good for You and Them
; 24. Homework: Itís Magic
; 25. Practice, Practice, Practice: The Perks and the Pitfalls
; 26. Money, Money, Money, Money: Allowance!
; 27. Technology: Make It a Force for Good
; 28. Forms: Donít Fill ëEm Out!
; 29. Paying it Forward: Making the World a Better Place
; 30. Take Your (Actual) Medicine
; 31. How Can I Help? What Else Can I Do?
; Part III: Resilience: Raising Problem Solvers
; 32. Resilience: Take One Step Back
; 33. Find Resilience Opportunities
; 33. Get off the Happiness Hook
; 34. Asking for Help
; 35. ìIím Booooooooorrrrrreeeed!î: Free Time Management
; 37. Playdates and Sleepovers and Trips, Oh My!
; 38. Mom, Sheís Bugging Me!: Sibling Management
; 39. Theyíre Mean!: Friend Management
; 40. Theyíre Strict!: Teacher Management
; 41. Theyíre Unfair!: Coach/Instructor Management
; 42. Somebody Has a Girlfriend!: Relationship Management
; 43. Take a Chance
; 44. Bad Things Happen
; 45. Failure Builds Success
; Part IV: Making Change Happen: How to Actually Get Kids to Do this Stuff
; 46. Can Your Kids Count on You?
; 47. How to Avoid being the Parent You Hate
; 48. Say ìNo.î You Wonít Regret It
; 49. Hurting the One You Love
; 50. Do One Thing and Do It Well
; 51. The Family Meeting
; 52. Consistency: Planting the Flag
; 53. Itís Still a Gift If You Ask For It
; 54. Lying is a Separate Problem
; 55. Let Life Teach the Lesson
; 56. Non-Response: ìIím not ignoring you...î
; 57. Separation: We Now Interrupt Our Regularly Scheduled...
; 58. Reminding: Did You Do That Yet?
; 59. Rights vs Privileges
; 60. Keep Your Focus Positive
; 61. Surprising Consequences
; 62. Admire Your Kids
; 63. The Power of Love
; Conclusion: You Know What You Want
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Authors

Deborah Gilboa, MD, aka Doctor G, is a board-certified family physician, international parenting speaker, parenting blogger, and writer who empowers parents with knowledge of child development and the skills they need to raise children they respect and admire. She lives with her husband and four children in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

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