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Get the Behavior You Want... Without Being the Parent You Hate!

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Dr. G's Guide to Effective Parenting

Author: Deborah Gilboa MD


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Get the Behavior You Want... Without Being the Parent You Hate! is a roadmap of quick, concrete strategies to help parents use everyday opportunities to create respectful, responsible, and resilient children between the ages of 18 months and 12 yearsÛwithout screaming or nagging. With Get the Behavior You Want... Without Being the Parent You Hate! youÌll know how to eliminate the behaviors you donÌt want while fostering the behaviors you do want like pitching in around the house, pleasant table manners, managing money, finishing multiple-step assignments, taking risks, asking for help, and coping with bad news.

With todayÌs busy parents in mind, each concise chapter provides easy-to-implement action steps and examples of how to teach respect, responsibility, and resilience plus ways to immediately address tantrums and unacceptable behavior while avoiding future conflicts down the road. Dr. G provides easy ways to modify the advice for children at different developmental stages, ranging from toddlers through kids ready to finish middle school.

A hands-on, grab-me-for-a-few-minutes resource, Get the Behavior You Want...Without Being the Parent You Hate! will help parents who are struggling to get to bedtime without tears parents who want to shop at Target without hearing constant whining and pleading and parents who want someone to normalize their experience and say, "Yes, this happens. Here's what you can do." Upbeat, lively, and humorous, this book answers parentsÌ most frequent questions and eliminates the guilt and guesswork out of raising a great kid.


Product Details 

  • Publication Date August 18, 2014
  • Page Count 272
  • Product Form Paperback / softback
  • ISBN 13 9781936303717
  • EISBN 9781617052149

Table of Contents 

; Part I: Respect: Thatís My Kid!
; 1. Respect: Why Bother?
; 2. Whoís Got Your Vote to Run The House?
; 3. Teaching the Skill of Self-Respect
; 4. Treat Family Even Better
; 5. Spoiler Alert: What You Do is More Important Than How You Feel
; 6. Manners Matter
; 7. Build Respect with Every Meal
; 8. Raising Good Hosts
; 9. Raising Good Guests
; 10. Titles Matter
; 11. Teach the Verbal Communication Secrets
; 12. Teach the Nonverbal Communication Secrets
; 13. Teach Your Kids to Talk to Strangers
; 14. Seek Out Diversity
; 15. But What About Your Kidsí Friends?
; 16. Your Bedroom as Your Sanctuary
; Part II: Responsibility: Count On It
; 17. Responsibility: Building a Great Work Ethic
; 18. Relying on You
; 19. Teach Kids to Get Themselves Clean
; 20. Teach Kids to Get Themselves Dressed
; 21. Teach Kids to Get Themselves Fed
; 22. Teach Kids to Get Themselves Fit
; 23. Chores: Good for You and Them
; 24. Homework: Itís Magic
; 25. Practice, Practice, Practice: The Perks and the Pitfalls
; 26. Money, Money, Money, Money: Allowance!
; 27. Technology: Make It a Force for Good
; 28. Forms: Donít Fill ëEm Out!
; 29. Paying it Forward: Making the World a Better Place
; 30. Take Your (Actual) Medicine
; 31. How Can I Help? What Else Can I Do?
; Part III: Resilience: Raising Problem Solvers
; 32. Resilience: Take One Step Back
; 33. Find Resilience Opportunities
; 33. Get off the Happiness Hook
; 34. Asking for Help
; 35. ìIím Booooooooorrrrrreeeed!î: Free Time Management
; 37. Playdates and Sleepovers and Trips, Oh My!
; 38. Mom, Sheís Bugging Me!: Sibling Management
; 39. Theyíre Mean!: Friend Management
; 40. Theyíre Strict!: Teacher Management
; 41. Theyíre Unfair!: Coach/Instructor Management
; 42. Somebody Has a Girlfriend!: Relationship Management
; 43. Take a Chance
; 44. Bad Things Happen
; 45. Failure Builds Success
; Part IV: Making Change Happen: How to Actually Get Kids to Do this Stuff
; 46. Can Your Kids Count on You?
; 47. How to Avoid being the Parent You Hate
; 48. Say ìNo.î You Wonít Regret It
; 49. Hurting the One You Love
; 50. Do One Thing and Do It Well
; 51. The Family Meeting
; 52. Consistency: Planting the Flag
; 53. Itís Still a Gift If You Ask For It
; 54. Lying is a Separate Problem
; 55. Let Life Teach the Lesson
; 56. Non-Response: ìIím not ignoring you...î
; 57. Separation: We Now Interrupt Our Regularly Scheduled...
; 58. Reminding: Did You Do That Yet?
; 59. Rights vs Privileges
; 60. Keep Your Focus Positive
; 61. Surprising Consequences
; 62. Admire Your Kids
; 63. The Power of Love
; Conclusion: You Know What You Want

Editorial Review(s) 

"Family doctor and parenting expert Gilboa reassures readers that everyone struggles with parenting, and provides a primer for managing and coaching well-adjusted and well-behaved children, from preschool to middle school...Good behavior isn’t just expected from children; Gilboa addresses plenty of changes parents should make, including patient task delegation, and the importance of getting out of the way. Throughout, she employs topic-relevant “Ask Dr. G” call-outs to illustrate points and adds bold sub-heads that make for quick reading and concrete messaging." – Publisher’s Weekly

“On target and accessible... Aiming to 'change the conversations we are having about parenting,' Gilboa suggests that we as a culture need to get off the 'happiness hook.' Within that framework, the author covers such everyday issues as good manners, money and allowances, technology, playdates and sleepovers, and much more. Many chapters end with specific advice for targeted age groups, broken down into information for the parents of toddlers; preschoolers; and children aged five to seven, eight to ten, and 11 to 12 years old.” - Library Journal

“Dr. G's superb book is brimming with insights and practical, actionable, doable steps that parents can take to raise responsible, resilient children prepared to thrive in our unpredictable world. Her lighthearted delivery coupled with the gravity of her message make this a page turner. Imagine a real-deal parenting book that is fun to read... you've found it.” —Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS ED, author of Building Resilience in Children and Teens: Raising Kids with Roots and Wings

“Dr. G. doles out straightforward parenting advice for kids of all ages with her down-to-earth sense of humor and non-judgmental tone. This book is a breakthrough for any parent needing a little extra support along this crazy ride, making even the most insecure parent feel well taken care of rather than wracked with guilt. Thank you, Dr. G, for giving me the only book on parenting that I don't want to chuck out the window!” —Jill Smokler, New York Times bestselling author of Confessions of a Scary Mommy and founder of ScaryMommy.com

“This may well be the first parenting book ever that tells you what to do if the advice doesn't work! Truly comprehensive, humorous, and full of practical wisdom, Get the Behavior You Want...Without Being the Parent You Hate! will help put the day-to-day challenges of parenting into perspective, whether you've got toddlers or teens...If you want to get off the ‘happiness hook’ of trying to make your child a satisfied customer at every turn, and instead raise respectful, responsible, resilient human beings, then Dr. G’s tips and strategies are your parenting to-do list. As someone who has been a parent I hate from time to time, I highly recommend this book to parents-to-be, parents in crisis, and parents who just want to feel like they can make a difference in their children's lives.” —Deesha Philyaw, co-author of Co-Parenting 101: Helping Your Kids Thrive in Two Households After Divorce

“In her new book, Dr. G. successfully, succinctly, and with a touch of humor answers the question on every parents' mind: ‘How can I give my kids what they need, while they whine for what they want?’ Her book is full of advice and practical how-to-tips...and I believe with it in hand, parents have a shot at achieving this goal.” —Estelle Erasmus, President, Board of Directors, Mothers & More, Huffington Post contributor, and contributor to What Do Mothers Need? Motherhood Activists and Scholars Speak out on Maternal Empowerment for the 21st Century

“As a travel nanny I work with all kinds of families and deal with all kinds of behavior. Parents want practical ideas to ‘get the job done,’ not a lot of philosophy. Get the Behavior You Want...Without Being the Parent You Hate delivers down-to-earth advice, examples, and clear guidelines. Dr. G makes it easy to identify your goals and how to accomplish them. And, I love that she breaks her advice down into age appropriate categories. You’ll use this book for years to come.” —Donna Robinson, The Traveling Nanny, 2008 Nanny of the Year

“An in-the-trenches primer of real live opportunities and situations told with humor and compassion by a woman who herself is raising 4 boys. From teaching table manners to the proper address of adults, chores to money management, and how to address boredom, aggression and those ‘life is not fair’ moments, Dr. G provides a wealth of practical observation, advice, and how-to suggestions. If the future you see for your children includes a successful launch as a young adult, and you are not sure how to get from here to there, pick up this book today. You won’t regret it.” —Kathy Webb, In-Home Childcare Expert and co-Founder, HomeWork Solutions, Inc.